“How shall we do for wives for them that remain, seeing we have sworn by the LORD that we will not give them of our daughters to wives?”
The full verse · Judges 21:7 · KJV
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The question was posed among themselves in deliberative assembly, seeking collective wisdom on the dilemma they had created.
Why It Was Asked
The purpose behind the questionThe assembly asks rather than declares to acknowledge their genuine predicament and invite collaborative problem-solving. By framing their crisis as a question, they open space for creative solutions while admitting they have trapped themselves between two conflicting oaths.
The Response
What Scripture recordsThe assembly devised a two-part solution. First, they identified that the men of Jabesh-gilead had not joined the assembly and attacked that city, sparing only 400 virgin women to give as wives to the Benjaminites. Second, they instructed the remaining 200 men to seize wives from among the daughters of Shiloh during an annual feast, then offered to intercede with the fathers of Shiloh by arguing that technically the daughters were not given but taken.
The Bigger Picture
Where this fits in God's storyThe question exposes Israel’s self-created crisis born from zealous but unwise oath-taking. The Hebrew construction uses the interrogative mah combined with the imperfect verb na’aseh, literally asking, What shall we do or make? This phrasing acknowledges both agency and urgency; they must act, but they have no clear path forward. The question form rather than a declarative statement reveals their genuine perplexity and invites corporate deliberation. They had bound themselves by Yahweh’s name, making their oath unbreakable in their understanding, yet they also recognized that allowing Benjamin’s extinction would violate God’s design for the twelve tribes. The theological weight rests on how easily religious zeal can create moral tangles when human passion rather than divine wisdom drives our commitments, and how we often seek technical loopholes rather than repentance when our vows prove foolish.
When you’ve painted yourself into a corner with rigid commitments, ask for wisdom before forcing a solution. The Israelites’ question reveals how conflicting absolutes can arise from our own rash vows rather than God’s commands. Before making binding promises, consider whether your words serve love and life or merely your emotional moment. When you find yourself trapped between competing obligations, bring the dilemma honestly before God and trusted counsel rather than manufacturing clever workarounds that technically preserve the letter while violating the spirit. The fruit of hasty vows in Judges was violence and manipulation. Better to be slow to speak and quick to seek the wisdom from above that is pure, peaceable, and full of mercy (James 3:17).
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