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Old TestamentJudges 21:16History
“How shall we do for wives for them that remain, seeing the women are destroyed out of Benjamin?”

The full verse · Judges 21:16 · KJV

Then the of the , How shall we for for them that , seeing the are out of ?

Asked by

Elders

Asked to

Each Other Elders

The elders directed this question among themselves as a collective deliberation, seeking a solution to preserve the tribe of Benjamin from extinction.

Why It Was Asked

The elders ask rather than propose a solution to invite collective wisdom and shared responsibility for a crisis they themselves created through their hasty oath at Mizpah. The interrogative form acknowledges their dilemma while opening space for communal problem-solving in a situation where they had sworn not to give their daughters to Benjamin.

The Response

The elders answered their own question by devising a plan: they would attack Jabesh-gilead, whose citizens had not joined the assembly, kill everyone except virgin women, and give these women to the Benjamites as wives (Judges 21:8-12).

The Bigger Picture

The elders’ question exposes the tragic irony of their situation: they are asking how to provide wives for men whose women they themselves destroyed. The Hebrew construction uses mah-na’aseh, meaning what shall we do or how shall we make, emphasizing their active search for a solution to a self-inflicted crisis. They ask rather than declare because they recognize the moral and legal bind created by their oath at Mizpah not to give their daughters to Benjamin. The question form reveals their recognition that conventional solutions are blocked by their own vow. This moment captures the book of Judges’ central tragedy: everyone doing what is right in their own eyes leads to cycles of violence where even attempts at restoration require further bloodshed. The elders’ concern for Benjamin’s survival is genuine, yet their methods reveal hearts still unredeemed by God’s wisdom.

For Your Life Today

When you face problems caused by your own rash promises, don’t compound the error with more violence or manipulation. The elders’ question reveals how human attempts to fix self-created disasters often spiral into greater injustice. Like them, we sometimes make emotional vows in anger that trap us later. Rather than scheming around our foolish commitments, we should confess our error and seek God’s wisdom. Proverbs 20:25 warns, ‘It is a snare to say rashly, It is holy, and to reflect only after making vows.’ God values mercy over sacrifice and would rather we break a foolish vow than keep it through sin (1 Samuel 15:22). When you’ve painted yourself into a corner through pride or haste, humble confession opens the door to grace rather than driving you deeper into compromise.

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