“Wilt thou lay down thy life for my sake?”
The full verse · John 13:38 · KJV
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Asked by
Jesus: the Son of God and promised Messiah, answering Peter's pledge at the supper on the night before His death (John 13:37)
Asked to
Peter: Simon called Peter, one of the twelve apostles of Jesus, who had just said, "I will lay down my life for thy sake" (John 13:37)
The Scene
At supper, Peter has just asked why he cannot follow Jesus now and pledged, "I will lay down my life for thy sake" (John 13:37).
Why It Was Asked
The purpose behind the questionJesus took Peter's own words and handed them back to him as a question. The question pressed Peter to look again at the promise he had just made so easily. Gill says Christ spoke this as questioning Peter's strength, not his sincerity, and as one pitying him more than mocking him. Matthew Henry writes, "The most secure are commonly the least safe." Later that night, when the cock crew, Peter "remembered the word of the Lord" (Luke 22:61).
The Response
What Scripture recordsJesus answered His own question at once: "Verily, verily, I say unto thee, The cock shall not crow, till thou hast denied me thrice" (John 13:38). John records no reply from Peter here; Jesus goes on to comfort all of them, "Let not your heart be troubled" (John 14:1). Matthew and Mark record that Peter protested even more strongly (Matthew 26:35; Mark 14:31). The word came true in the high priest's courtyard: Peter denied Him three times, "and immediately the cock crew" (John 18:17, 25-27).
Historical Context
The world behind the wordsMark records Jesus' words as "before the cock crow twice" (Mark 14:30), and Luke says the denial would come "this day" (Luke 22:34). The three denials John records came when Peter was asked by the damsel at the door, by those warming themselves at the fire, and by a servant of the high priest (John 18:17, 25-27).
Gill sees in this rebuke of Peter's confidence a full proof of Christ's omniscience.
The Bigger Picture
Where this fits in God's storyJesus knew exactly how weak Peter would be, and He still kept him close. The next words in John are not a rebuke but comfort: "Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me" (John 14:1). Matthew Henry, in his concise notes, says Christ "knows us better than we know ourselves."
This question has an echo. After the resurrection, Jesus again asked Peter questions, three times: "lovest thou me?" (John 21:15-17). Then He told Peter how he would one day glorify God by his death and said, "Follow me" (John 21:18-19). The life Peter could not lay down that night, he would one day give to glorify God (John 21:19).
Look Closer
Why did Jesus phrase His reply as a question?
Carry the question into prayer and conversation.
Lord Jesus, You asked Peter to look again at his promise; which of my promises to You do You want me to look at again, leaning on Your strength?
A prayer to carry into the day.
- Jesus repeated Peter's own words back to him. Why might hearing your own promises spoken back to you be a gift rather than an insult?
- Tell about a time God was gentle with you after you fell short of what you had promised.
For you, a small group, a friend, or the dinner table.
Jesus met Peter's confident promise with a question. That was not because He despised Peter's love. He knew Peter's weakness better than Peter did.
When you make a promise to God, make it humbly. Ask for His help to keep it. And if you have already failed, remember that Jesus foretold Peter's failure and still spoke comfort to him right afterward (John 14:1), and later restored him (John 21:15-19).
This does not make failure unimportant. Peter "went out, and wept bitterly" (Luke 22:62). But Jesus' knowledge of Peter's weakness came with His prayer for him (Luke 22:32).
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