“Who shall tell me?”
The full verse · 1 Samuel 20:10 · KJV
Then to , Who shall me? or what if thy thee ?
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Asked to
Jonathan, son of Saul and David’s covenant friend, who would directly confront his father about David’s absence from the feast.
Why It Was Asked
The purpose behind the questionDavid voices his fear as a question to honor Jonathan’s courage while naming the real danger Jonathan will face. The interrogative form softens what could sound like accusation or doubt, instead expressing care for Jonathan’s safety and inviting him to weigh the personal cost before committing to the plan.
The Response
What Scripture recordsJonathan did not dismiss David’s fear but acknowledged the danger, swearing an oath to warn David if his father intended evil and invoking God’s judgment on himself if he failed (1 Samuel 20:12-13).
The Bigger Picture
Where this fits in God's storyDavid’s question ‘What if thy father answer thee roughly?’ transforms anxiety into invitation. The Hebrew construction mah (what) with a conditional clause opens space for Jonathan to acknowledge danger without obligating him to proceed. David asks rather than asserts because he will not manipulate Jonathan through guilt or minimize the threat Saul poses. The adverb qasheh (roughly, harshly) recalls Saul’s violent instability, grounding David’s fear in lived experience, not paranoia. This question honors Jonathan’s autonomy while expressing genuine concern for his physical safety in a court where the king’s rage was deadly.
Your worst fears deserve honest questions, not suppression. David did not pretend courage he lacked; he named the danger aloud to his friend. When you face threatening situations, voice your fear to trusted believers rather than hiding behind false bravado. God honors vulnerability that seeks wisdom. Jonathan did not rebuke David’s fear; he validated it and pledged protection. Similarly, bring your ‘what if’ fears to Jesus, who already knows them and has already defeated them. First John 4:18 reminds us that perfect love casts out fear; allow Christ’s proven love to meet your specific anxieties. He will not answer you roughly.
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