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Old TestamentJudges 14:3History
“Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines?”

The full verse · Judges 14:3 · KJV

Then his and his unto him, Is there a among the of thy , or among all my , that thou to a of the ? And unto his , her for me; for she pleaseth me .

Asked to

Samson

Samson, the Nazirite judge of Israel, who had just requested his parents arrange marriage to a Philistine woman from Timnah.

Why It Was Asked

Manoah and his wife use this question to express disapproval and shame regarding Samson’s choice. By framing their objection as a question rather than a direct command, they appeal to Samson’s reason and cultural identity, hoping he will recognize the inappropriateness of marrying outside the covenant community. The question exposes the tension between parental wisdom rooted in God’s law and a son’s stubborn desire.

The Response

Samson responded to his parents’ rebuke by insisting, ‘Get her for me, for she is right in my eyes’ (Judges 14:3, ESV). His reply dismissed their concern entirely, asserting his personal preference as the final authority and demanding they proceed with the marriage arrangement despite their objections.

The Bigger Picture

This question confronts Samson with the incongruity between his covenant identity and his romantic choice. The Hebrew construction emphasizes the parents’ astonishment: ‘Is there not even one woman?’ Their appeal to ‘the daughters of your relatives’ (literally ‘your brothers’) and ‘all my people’ stresses the abundance of appropriate options within Israel. By using a question rather than a prohibition, they invite Samson to examine his own reasoning and recognize the shame of pursuing an uncircumcised Philistine. The term ‘uncircumcised’ (עֲרֵלִים) functions as both religious judgment and cultural insult, marking the Philistines as covenant outsiders. Yet this parental wisdom clashes with divine sovereignty, for the narrator will soon reveal that God was behind Samson’s attraction, seeking an occasion against Israel’s oppressors. The question thus becomes tragically ironic: the very faithfulness that prompts the parents’ rebuke blinds them to God’s unexpected strategy.

For Your Life Today

When those who love you question your choices, pause before dismissing their concerns. Samson’s parents asked a legitimate question grounded in God’s Word, yet he bulldozed past their wisdom because ‘she was right in his eyes.’ This phrase echoes the book’s tragic refrain: ‘Everyone did what was right in his own eyes’ (Judges 21:25). Godly accountability from parents, mentors, or church family often saves us from destructive paths our hearts have rationalized. Proverbs 12:15 warns, ‘The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.’ Humbly consider whether your desires align with Scripture or merely with your preferences. God’s boundaries exist not to restrict your joy but to protect it.

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